One of the toughest parts about seeing your kids through school is deciding to “let go.” To let them take responsibility, make mistakes, and “learn how to learn” under their own control.
But what happens when they get stuck, and aren’t able (or willing) to figure it out on their own?
Research shows that when a task seems too large or difficult for kids (and students of any age), they often procrastinate more.
So in this situation, a timer is a surprising effective solution.
Interestingly though, it isn’t that they’re not working diligently when they do finally sit down to work.
They’re just easily distracted and taken away from that work frequently.They’re already at the table, away from distractions, so start by tacking on 15-20 minutes either before or after dinner to review upcoming assignments for the week.You can ask And then have them outline the steps they need to take.Instead, we need to add in some planning into the process, and this is where you can help.A great way to do this is to make Sunday dinners the jumping off point for planning.Now keep in mind, writing down assignments is an important first step, but it’ll only take you so far without learning how to get organized and prioritize.Organization starts when your child walks through the front door after school get home, and should be an integral part of the evening routine each school night before they go to bed.or to jump in to help with homework at the first sign of struggle, especially if our children aren’t forthcoming about their workload or issues they’re having in class.And on top of that, when our students struggle with motivation, it’s common for them to do the bare minimum or avoid homework altogether. We end up enabling our children by constantly checking to see what homework is due, and helping them get it done on time, even though this task should be their job.” Then, instead of fully leaving it to them to work it out, open up a dialogue and try to let them come up with the steps. As they get the hang of it, you can help less and less over time.But don’t be afraid to help the process along when they’re young. I recently spoke to one mom who called our office in Fairfax looking for a tutor. She was making it a regular practice to tap into her freshman son’s school portal each day and print out his assignments so they would be ready for him when he came home from school. They’ll never have the opportunity to develop the skills they’ll need to do that if you don’t set the stage for them to do these things on their own.