Points were awarded on the basis of physical attractiveness, sexual skills and creativity, aggressiveness, humor, and athletic ability.Oh yes, and on "the length and girth of the subjects' hardware." The paper is now a viral sensation online. "Men have engaged in this sort of behavior for time immemorial," says Dr.Ian Kerner, the author of "She Comes First." Now here is a woman who feels empowered to rate and rank men in much the same way. He says Owen's "f*** list" reflects the coarsening of sexual mores among young people, as well as the perils of social media.
While I admire her to talk about it openly, to send it out without thinking about what the consequences of that might be, is dangerous and potentially destructive." Gardere added, "This young woman, first of all, I don't want to put her down, I think this is really tragic what happened to her and the young men involved.
A lot of her trysts involved alcohol, poor judgment. But she sent this, from what we know, initially to three friends.
"It would start with breast and butt and maybe eyes," says Kerner, and go straight downhill from there.
A recent Duke University graduate has a lot of explaining to do, after what began as a private joke is spinning out of control since her 42-page sex diary went viral on the Internet.
It lured academic luminaries—many of them longer on star power than on intellectual substance—built a fearsome sports program, and turned its admissions department into the collegiate version of a head-hunting firm.
(I was a college counselor at a prep school in the ’90s, and the zeal with which Duke gunned for our top students was unseemly.) In some respects Duke has never moved on from the values of the 1980s, when droves of ambitious college students felt no moral ambivalence about preparing themselves for a life centered largely on the getting and spending of money.The mock thesis, subtitled "Excelling in the Realm of Horizontal Academics," features lots of stuffy academic language - but it's actually a brutally frank kiss-and-tell about the physical attributes and sexual prowess of 13 male students Owen claims to have hooked up with.The Power Point presentation includes a bar chart showing the overall rankings of her sexual conquests and photos of the men in question - many from the Duke lacrosse team.Administrators said in a statement, "We've been reaching out to those affected by this incident and will continue to support them."Strassmann pointed out that the athletes named are furious.And Karen Owen, a 22-year-old Duke alum, may be in for some interesting questions in future job interviews. Jennifer Hartstein, a child and adolescent psychologist, and Dr.While I think, on one hand, it's nice [that] girls are catching up to boys and I support that, the fact it is happening indiscriminately -- she blacks out at one point -- that worries me because that happens more than not, and why aren't we addressing underlying issues." Gardere did disagree with Hartstein on one point. Now that women are being acknowledged being equal members of society, 'Women, please don't repeat the same stupid mistakes that men have made when it comes to sexual intimacy.'" Hartstein responded, "I think what is empowering to women [is] they can be as assertive and aggressive in wanting to have sex.I think that, in part, women really were kind of taught to sit back and let men take charge.In 2009, GQ magazine named Duke America’s second-douchiest college, a distinction that came with a caveat: “They’re probably number one.But we’d rather not rank Duke number one at anything.” It’s difficult to argue with GQ’s thinking on either score; something ugly is going on at the university—a mercenary intensity that has been gathering strength for the past two decades, as the institution made the calculated decision to wrench itself into elite status by dint of its fortune in tobacco money and its sheer ambition.With a social scene dominated by fraternities and sororities (a way of life consisting of ardent partying and hooking up, offset by spurts of busywork composing angry letters to campus newspapers and taking online alcohol-education classes), with its large share of rich students displaying their money in the form of expensive cars and clothing, and with an attitude toward campus athletics that is at once deeply southern (this is a part of the world where even high-school athletes can be treated with awestruck deference by adults) and profoundly anti-intellectual, it’s a university whose thoughtful students are overshadowed by its voraciously self-centered ones.It was from both within this world and outside it that Karen Owen emanated.